Helping your older piano student learn to love music and keep playing piano for a life-time is really easy. All you have to do is clearly define your parental role and your piano student will know what to do.
Older children in piano lessons need a different kind of support from their parents than younger children do. Older children who want to be their own person become very confused when parents start being the student and the piano teacher has to be the parent. For older children piano lessons involve three clearly defined roles - the student's role Uomo Nike Air Max 270 Ultramarine Scontate , the teacher's role, and the parent's role. When the boundaries defined by these roles become fuzzy Uomo Nike Air Max 270 Triple Nere Scontate , older children do not learn how to take responsibility for their success and feel their effort is unimportant. This is because there is nothing that drives a kid crazier than to have two adults telling them different things and being unable to please them both. Here are three Universal Laws of Piano Lessons for Parents of Children Ages 12 and Up. Follow these and your older child in piano lessons will be a lot more likely play piano for a life-time.
1. The Law of Who is the Student -
Your child is the piano student, not you. It is not your job to decide what music your child will play. That's the student's and the teacher's job.
2. The Law of Piano Progress -
Progress is the student's department. They will make the progress they want to make. If you don't compare them to every other piano student you've ever known Uomo Nike Air Max 270 Photo Blu Scontate , they'll probably make more progress.
3. The Seven to One Law of Piano Support -
Give your child in piano lessons seven encouragements to every one criticism. If you use the word ?but? in your encouragement it doesn't count.
Follow these Universal Laws for Parents of Piano Students and your child in piano lessons will be a lot more likely to learn to love music.
1. Focus on outcomes not problems
Each member of the family needs to understand and communicate what their desired outcome is in any situation. In this way every part of your family team can move toward that objective rather than focus on the reasons why it can not happen.
2. Focus on feedback not failure
When sharing negative information always deliver it in a constructive way. Share how things could be better not how they went wrong.
3. Focus on Possibilities ? Possibilities are endless
Keep your family looking to the future and not to the past. The future is yet to happen so you have the chance to change it. The past can only be remembered and learned from.
4. Understand roles
Clearly communicate that every part of the family has a role to play. Remember that the roles can and will change. Admit as a parent you don't know it all (at least to yourself). Define your own weakness and supplement them with the help of others.
Letting go of the belief that the parent must always be the leader is very difficult but must be done. It is important for you as a parent and your children that you recognize that Kids can do stuff. Hand in hand with this you must also learn to ?Be there when you are there?. Too often adults are physically present but disengaged in their children's activities.
6. Be positive
Set positive goals that the family believes are achievable and worthwhile. It is much easier to move toward something then it is to move away from something. Frequently smile, laugh at yourself Uomo Nike Air Max 270 Midnight Marina Scontate , and play with kids and adults just for the joy of it
7. Have clear visions
What do you as a family stand for? What does it mean to be part of the family? Clarify expectations so everyone understands and buys in to them. Be clear on what you need to happen not what you want to happen. When is good enough, enough and when is perfection required?
8. Continue to learn and grow
Things change so change with them. The world is not he same as it was last year or five years ago or ten. So why do your actions and responses have to be the same. People grow and change that is the miracle of our lives. The relationship you have and the role you played in the life of your 2 year old son is different when he is 12 and 20. Anticipate problems that will happen as your family grows and changes and plan your response.
9. Recognize people don't function in a vacuum Communicate - Communicate
Share your ideas from your head and heart. It is just as important for the family to understand each others motivations and intentions. Listen 2 times as much as you talk that's why god gave you 2 ears and only 1 mouth.
10. Go after what you want - ACT
Action is better then inaction. Model this behavior and the rest of the family will do the same. Never forget COURAGE is taking action in spite of fear not being fearless.